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Learn The Art Of Seduction.
Of course, you want sex. Women know that and they expect it. But many men never get close to women because they don't know how to ask. They make a small, timid move and expect the woman to respond with instant passion. If a woman doesn't react, they think that means "no." It doesn't necessarily.
Lots of women wait for the man to make all the moves. They've been taught that nice girls don't want sex. So even if they do, they're not going to grab you and tear your clothes off. If you're afraid of rejection, you may be acting too tentatively.
Here's a simple rule to follow. If you haven't been pushed away or she hasn't said "No," she may be waiting for you to make another move. However, if she does push you away or says "No," stop immediately. If you persist for one moment beyond that, it's sexual harrassment or worse.
There's always a next time. And in the meantime, perhaps you should review your romancing style.
A particularly successful seducer once told me, "I never pick the fruit until it's ripe. If you pick it too soon, it's hard and bitter, but if you wait until it's ripe, if falls off in your hand, and it's oh so very sweet."
Getting a woman "ripe" requires the dance of seduction, a courtship ritual. Courtship rituals take place in every species. There are moves the male makes, moves the female makes. In our species and in our society, the man makes the moves by taking the woman out, wining and dining her, giving her gifts, perhaps, but certainly lots of time and attention. He is then expected to be the aggressor sexually.
Do you want to be successful with women? Follow the ritual, even if you think it's bullshit. Love her for her mind and her good qualities. Always precede seduction with wining and dining. If she seems happy, proceed. Show her affection, and if she returns the affection, proceed some more. Much later, after you've mastered the dance, you can try to change it (if you still want to).
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